An act by a parent or other guardian causing deliberate physical pain or discomfort to a minor child in response to some undesired behaviour by the child. Corporal punishment of children typically takes the form of spanking or slapping the child with an open hand or striking with an implement such as a belt, slipper, cane, hairbrush or paddle.
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My aim is not to judge the motives of any loving parent, but to simply point out for your consideration the overwhelming scientific research on the negative effects of corporal punishment on children.
Surely some parents are guilty of child abuse. Such parents are not concerned enough about the good of the child. So in a fit of uncontrolled rage, they beat the child, often resulting in serious or lasting damage. Such acts are surely unloving (Romans 13:8-10; Matthew 7:12). But is it unloving to give corporal punishment - pain that causes no serious or lasting damage - to motivate a child to act as it should?
Understandably, some people think these verses mean that spanking children is an acceptable and even preferred method of discipline. The Christian group Focus on the Family offers parents 7 tips for effective spanking on their website, including "use a wooden spoon or some other appropriately sized paddle and flick your wrist," since "if it doesn't hurt, it isn't really discipline."
No matter what side of the debate you are on, we should first establish that spanking in anger is not the right thing to do. When spanking a child, you should be careful not to react. In the heat of the moment, it can be tempting to give your child a spanking. However, this is not the right time to do it. You may find that you are spanking all the time, or spanking for offenses that don't really deserve a spanking.
It's also important to realize that there can be a very thin line between spanking and abuse. Anytime you strike your child and leave a mark, you are going too far. A child should never be injured as a result of your discipline. This is a clear indicator of physical abuse. This can cause serious psychological and emotional problems in your child. The same is true for striking a child repeatedly.
Research shows that physical punishment can actually have a negative impact on the child's brain. This goes beyond any feelings that might get hurt, and this is where those that complain about parents being too soft on kids today should pay attention.
A study in 2009 looked at kids exposed to harsh corporal punishment (HCP). CP consists in "the use of physical force with the intention of causing a child to experience pain but not injury for the purpose of correction or control of the child's behavior," you know, the Focus on the Family technique. It is considered harsh if it occurs about once a month or more for a period of a few years.
I don't believe spankings should be doled out like penny candy. But a child with an I'm-the-boss-of-me attitude soon realizes he's nobody's boss, having his bare bottom warmed across the lap of parental authority. By never getting the spankings I deserved, I simply wasn't properly taught the critical lesson of Actions & Consequences. I'm not saying my tendency to impulsiveness could've been spanked out of me, but being subjected to traditional pants-down, over-the-knee correction for any of those instances of wrongdoing I mentioned would certainly have given me pause the next time naughtiness tempted me.
I believe that parents should spank their children. Some children do not respond to punishments that are not physical. Children who are overly disrespectful are the ones that need physical punishment. I'll admit that there are a few negatives with spanking, but it also depends upon the parent-child relationship as well as how often the punishment is administered, to what severity, and under what circumstances. Here is my blog with a few of my thoughts on spanking children: -misbehaving-public-whooping/
some times the child will not listen or learn unless spanked, some children are just so bull headed and stubborn about doing bad things that no other forms of punishment will work because they think it is a joke and they laugh about other kinds of punishment. in addition, if you start using other links of punishments parent have been condemned about using alternative kinds of punishment also. I mean, the people who object to spanking object to almost all kinds of punishments and will fault people from using them also. if you are a single mother and her child is getting older and bigger and the mother wants to keep her child from becoming a delinquent, so that is supposed to be acceptable?
Every child pushes limits during their entire life . As they learn right from wrong some times in rare situations a good swat on the palm of the hand enough to get their attention can help in difficult children . It's better if you seek help in talking firmly with a explanation what and why a wrong is . Children are learning limits if you can give them examples of results on their level of what happens when one continues a wrong action . It must be on their learning level . As for swatting a child with intentional force to many get caught up in angry actions leading to damage both physical and mental . Never punish while angry even a bad day at work can effect your control . I personally had a set of parents that went to far causing real physical perminate damage as well as mental . There are 3 of us kids and that was in the 60-70s . It was acceptable to Paddle in schools as well , in one instance while in school JR High our History teacher also men's basketball coach allowed boys to toss paper balls at the trash can . If you missed that was one whack with a large paddle . Well I,missed as did several other boys out in the hall for our whacks . The coach would throw his arm way back and really cause bruises . I was standing behind him and when he drew back he hit me square in the forehead knocking me backwards . This is not the proper use of a punishment today in fact coach would likely be fired . Once I got a paddling for soemthing I did not do again misjustice at a very early stage in 1st grade . That incident made me despise authority even that young . No teacher should punish without administration assistance in public schools to many children with mental difficulties are damaged instead of getting proper help . I also,believe we wayyyyy overprescribing certain drugs that's being given to children to stop certain behavior the easy way . The easy way creates addiction very early in life often leading to much stronger harder drugs. Look at our heroine abuse among now JR high up its a epidemic started in the eastern states years ago it has spread nation wide . This I believe is results of addictive prescriptions that later these children self medicate but they get caught in a deadly game that ends badly . Should we whip our children No ! There are far better ways even the most poor of us can do,to end bad behavior . It takes a dedicated parent and it takes faith in a higher power greater than any other . It's your choice who,or what that higher power is to you . Each of us have different views some might think beating a child works best but to me that's a lazy abusive way to cope with difficult children .Pastor Brenten Stevens
it does not, esp if it is done right, if the child matures in time, it wont cause any problems. the problem comes in with immature adults who think that everybody needs to be caudled or you do't love them. animals punish their young, and in time even though the baby thinks at the time they are abused, when they grow up and becomes parents they learn they have to also. if a baby elephant does not get raised properly, that is start out with the females and later the young male go and socialize with the bull males, where they are taught other things about right and wrong, if they don't get to socialize with the males they go roan. that is good reason why humans need to also push their young. the problem is when punishment becomes abusive. However, when people try to take away all rights to not let the parents punish their child, it causes much more problems. the affluenca boy comes to mind. not all punishments are abuse, not all spanking is abuse. some kids do not respond to non spanking punishments and if people give in to that, the they are being negligence with parenting. it has gotten to the point that even standing in the corner is considered abuse for some people because you might cause the child to become embarrassed, i mean i think that is a good example of going over board. kids needs disaplain. they are not mentally mature as children to be able to make their own rules and that is what many children and mature adults think should happen.that is why we have so many adults not that believe in no accountability.
i don't believe that, most of our founding fathers were very intelligent and most of them i am willing to bet had corple punishment, and i did not saying that all forms of spanking is abuse, am saying that you can spank your child and it is not necessarily abuse. i never said that if somebody objects to spanking that they also objects to other kinds of punishment, i said most other kinds of punishment does not always work and that many people see those kinds as abuse, too. and that children need some kind of punishment as apposed to no punishments at all and that is where many families are, and why their are so many delinquents around the country right now.
I believe children learn from discipline. I was spanked. One should never discipline a child when angry, or use any thing to strike them. The bare hand on the bottom is sufficiiennt.Both parents need to support each other and jointly decide on the punishment. Older children recognize loss of privileges as more hurtful than spanking.GL
i think it is wrong of California to outlaw spanking your kids, some kids that is the only kind of punishment they will understand. Not all forms of punishment will work and many people also ant to call some of those other forms abuse, too. i mean where does it start, look at the problems that has arises in this society that is from not punishing our young. even animals will punish their you in ways that will appear to immature minds to be mean, or abusive. but they know it is the only way to teach their young who without it might run off and get in trouble or killed or eaten by another animal. do you think that would be okay if that were a human child? i don't. this is just another form of caudaling, and caudaling your kids are never good and is a kid to child abuse. 2ff7e9595c
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